Friday, February 8, 2008


Every few weeks I talk to someone or get an email that is something like this:

"I know need to to lose weight, but it's so HARD. I need somebody to motivate me. Can you motivate me?"


Yes I can.

Here is your motivation:
  • You're so fat you can't tie your own shoes
  • You're so fat you can't walk a flight of stairs without feeling like you're going to stroke out
  • You've put yourself at serious risk of having a heart attack because you're so fat
  • You've got a serious chance of becoming a diabetic because you're so fat
  • Your kids may not have a parent because you might die young because you're so fat
Until you want to help yourself, I cannot help you.

If you are willing to do the work, I can help you. If not, go back home, turn the TV back on and get caught up on the latest news about Britney, Brad and Angelina.

If you want change in your life, you're going to have to put in the work. The work may be very hard. Your motivation comes from within.

Is it going to be a LOT harder for some people than others?

Yes, it's going to be a LOT harder for some than others.

Do people deserve all the love and support and encouragement I (we) can possibly give them?

Yes, they do.

Can I (we) do it for them?

No. Until you want to help yourself, I can do nothing.

I give thanks everyday for all the wonderful things in my life. I am truly blessed.

And a lot of peopel email me and tell me this blog and my email newsletter is inspiration to them.
I'm very grateful to be in that postition. But as I tell everyone I work with, you must be motivated from within.


douglas said...

Dave, great post. I actually print out alot of your posts and either put them in the gym or on the fridge where ever i need it most : )


Adam said...

Thats why we love you brother. Direct and to the point.

As a supervisor i see this poor attitude every day "you don't help me enough" When they really should say "I am not willing to help myself, will you do it so i don't have to?"

Iron Tamer said...

Thanks Doug, Adam.

I also get emails sometimes that ay I am being too harsh, but if you only knew how much I tone it down before I publish it...

Come to think of it, if the best use of your time is emailing me to tell me I am being too harsh, maybe you should re-evaluate your priorities.

Jennifer said...

Sometimes the truth is brutal. And sometimes, what we need to hear in order to truly listen is brutality. A WTF?! from you goes a long way for some reason--even when I may have been saying exactly that to myself for a while. Your right. If people think it's too harsh, they just need to move on to whatever they've been doing that hasn't been working.

Franklin said...

Why beat around the bush? ... No really, this is one the funniest, brutal and honest blog posts I have ever read. Screw political correctness ... thanks Dave.